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Wedding Planning 101: My Vision

I’m not the kind of girl who has dreamed of her wedding since she was 5, nor have I ever wanted to be a princess. So when Monsieur P and I first got engaged, we sat down to figure out what kind of wedding we wanted.

As a couple, we’re pretty mellow.  We like good food, and good drinks.  Neither of us likes to dance, though we’re not averse to going out, because we’re both chatterboxes and we like to socialize.  Neither of our families is very big on drinking or partying, either.  Because of these personality traits, my plan was that we were in a perfect situation to have a low-budget intimate wedding with a cocktail reception, rather than the more common dinner-and-drinks-and-dancing evening reception.

I thought this was a perfect plan for us, not only because it suits us, but because we’re both pretty cheap when it comes to paying for things that we don’t deem worth spending a lot of money on.  We like to travel, and we like to have nice things, so we spend  money on those things.  But to spend thousands of dollars on a frivolous party?  No, thank you.

Monsieur P and I are pretty in sync when it comes to our tastes, and he doesn’t really take an interest in planning anything, really, and was especially standoffish about wedding anything.  I expected that I would be planning 90% of the wedding and he’d just show up that day to say the “I do’s.”  You may be able to guess where I’m going with this…

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Wedding Planning 101: Where to Begin?

Wedding planning is different for everyone, so it makes sense that there isn’t one set way to start planning.  It seems like every wedding website has its own checklists, tips, and timelines, which just serves to make the beginning of wedding planning even more confusing and overwhelming.

As soon as we got engaged (in March 2012), the first thing we decided was roughly when the wedding would be.  I knew I didn’t want to get married until after I graduated with my Masters, so that made Fall 2014 the earliest we could get married.  I always wanted to get married in October because I love fall (and Monsieur P didn’t care either way), so we decided October 2014 would be the time.  That left us with about 2½ years before the wedding.  Since most wedding planning timelines are set up for about a year-long engagement, they were not that helpful to us.

Now, before I get ahead of myself, I’m just going to say that we shirked tradition and didn’t listen to a lot of timelines or wedding websites, because having a 2+ year engagement is unusual and we had to make things fit our situation, as everyone does.  That said, we pulled some no-no’s and made some (minor) mistakes. Continue reading Wedding Planning 101: Where to Begin?